Since having a baby, my daily life pretty much revolves around meeting someone else's needs. And in the gaps between, I'm doing laundry, cooking dinner, taking care of our pets, cleaning up toys, prepping meals, running errands.. it's really easy for me to slide to the bottom of my list when it comes to my priorities.
I know for me, when I'm not taking care of myself, that gives my anxiety free range to come party. And I have no time for that! (literally haha!)
So I recently thought about some things I could do that would help me find 'me time' and that would help me feel replenished when I spend a lot of my day in 'give' mode. One of the things I did was join a gym. It's a great way for me to get my baby out of the house and around other little ones while I sneak in a solid hour of time just for myself. I've been hitting the gym a few times a week and always feel immediately better and refreshed post- sweat sesh.
I also make it a priority now to spend at least one of the babe's naps relaxing. Absolutely no cleaning, chores, dishes... whatever. I have been using her first nap of the day to take a bath or sit in my backyard with a magazine.
In the evening, once the baby is in bed and dinner has been finished and cleaned up, I made it a priority to get to bed early. It may seem obnoxiously early, but for me I found it helps to get that extra rest when i'm doing multiple wake ups during the night. I curl up, put on a favorite show and allow myself to "check out" for a bit. I used to journal or catch up on social media, but i found it suits me better to just unplug and unwind during this time.
Me Time is an absolute must to rejuvenate and replenish you. When you're tired, overwhelmed, overworked, or just plain stretched too thin, you are creating a breeding ground for anxiety. Anxious thoughts can run wild in a stressed out and tired mind. If you can, find time during your day for a quick mediation, yoga stretch, walk outside or even a quick nap. If your day is jam packed, as they often are, consider waking up a half hour early to read or journal. You don't even have to get up! Try some yoga twists in bed. Sometimes it can feel selfish to make yourself a priority, but if you don't, you can't show up to be your best self. To be a better person, partner, parent you have have to make time for yourself.
Figure out one thing you can do for you and do it every day for one full week. Journal how you feel after the week. See how you're able to show up in the world and for the people around you. I bet you'll notice the shift almost immediately.
How can you show up for yourself today?