We were chatting about anxiety and fear and how they play such a huge role in how people live their lives. I spent a big part of my life living with a fear-based, or EGO driven, mindset. We've all been there. Small battles with the Ego are a daily occurance for most of us. When we flow on our mats and get jealous of someone that falls into splits without breaking a sweat or when fear strikes hold at the thought of going into an arm balance and falling or even when you judge a co-worker for going after a promotion that you were scared to go after for fear of failing...that's our Ego. And that tricky little sucker likes to pop up and control us as much as it can.
During our conversation, I shared my thoughts on the Ego and how I work to combat it when it rears its gnarly little head. At first glance, it might seem that to beat out this Ego, we should shift into the opposite mindset. And that's right! But... the opposite mindset isn't what we first think of. If the Ego causes fear-based living, then the opposite would seem like safety, but it's actually not. Tricky Ego! When we buy into the illusion that the Ego creates (i'm not good enough. I can't do that. I'm dumb. I'm not worthy of love.) we create a feeling of safety for ourselves. Giving into that fear based mindset makes us feel like we are avoiding scary things. We get fooled into thinking that this fear is serving a purpose. And therefore, we feed into it even more. We perpetuate the Ego loop- fear, avoidance, safety. But when we move into the opposite mindset, we shine a light on that Ego and bust through it. This opposite mindset is >LOVE<
When we live from a place of Love, the Ego looses its grip on us. We have faith, trust, acceptance and security. And we don't have to do anything to get it. We just vibrate with that energy. We begin to see challenges as learning opportunities, fear dissolves with our faith and our journey is supported by our trust that we'll reach our destination.
I had to move into that Loving space to stop hating my anxiety. My Ego justified my anxious feelings and I felt comfortable keeping them around. At the peak of my anxiety I hit rock bottom and had a choice. Keep living in fear or shift to love. I think you can guess which one I chose ;)
Find time today to open your heart and radiate love.
And be mindful of when the Ego tries to steer your course. Stay commited to that loving mindset and set the intention for an attitude of gratitude!
Sat Nam xo